I’m completely and utterly burnt out of education, and queer anyway. I live in shithole, US and am desperate to move.
I am very good at math and science, and explaining how to do math to people. I have fairly severe ASD adjacent symptoms at the moment, eye contact is difficult and off putting tics or body posture are just not something I can’t avoid atm. This is a burnout phase, which I experience cyclically and is also related to periods of high stress.
I want a 9-5 with health insurance. I am hopelessly in forever debt, but live poor as shit anyway. I would like to move out of my shithole before they put on “f” on my drivers license. I have a decent size library that I want to transport to wherever I move.
I’ve had severe executive function breakdown related to actual physical torture and other things. What I am looking for is a path to owning a small home in a place that is welcoming to trans people and a job that requires less planning and more in the moment tasks. I have no desire to be wealthy, but I want a house with my name on it that no one can ever kick me out of.
I can program, I can read fast, I can pick up a lot of skills very quickly. I have a BA, BS, and most of an MS. I just can’t organize. I can’t plan out my to-do lists. I need something very difficult and interesting for someone to point me at.
So, you have two goals: where to live and what to do.
For where to live - right now I live in Colorado. Colorado has one of the most sensible and competent state governments I’ve encountered. We have universal mail in ballots, decriminalized weed and mushrooms, and don’t waste tons of money building 20 lane highways (relative to other states). But importantly, the state of Colorado provides income-based assistance for purchasing health insurance. You plug in your anticipated income for the year into the state’s website, and it lists insurance plans you can buy at a state-subsidized rate. This year, I am paying $3 per month for health insurance. Plus, the Front Range has a very mild climate that is mostly comfortable most of the year, but you still get all 4 seasons, and we have beautiful mountains and no Mormons.
Wanting to buy a house makes things trickier. As a queer person, you probably want to live where you will feel comfortable and accepted. And as a not-rich person, you will want to live where you can get a job. These two requirements mean you will probably need to live in a metro area, which means owning your own space will be expensive. And the most queer-friendly places are often the most expensive places to live, since prosperity breeds liberalism. So, you probably need to make some money.
Your lack of ability to organize and plan will be a major hindrance here. I would suggest simply moving and picking up some straightforward dumb work to start off with. Just find somewhere you want to live, get any job, and start living a happier life first. I know around here it is easy to get work selling solar, setting up concerts (seasonal), logging (seasonal), or hanging Christmas lights (seasonal). The good thing about these jobs is that they fit your requirement: boss gives you a task, you do that task.
Mid term, I would highly suggest working through the issues you are describing directly. Executive function and people skills are probably the two biggest factors in getting higher pay in literally any field. If you can get those two things to an at least decent level, you could get a job developing software. Or else I have a friend who clears six figures tutoring college students in physics and math.