I’m letting people who hurt me in the past live rent free in my mind.
One episode involves a former landlord that tried to run me over in an intersection with no traffic cameras.
Another one involves a manager that fired me for informing that one of his favorites yelled during night shift and ignored alarms to talk. He fired me the next day, used the exit interview to tell me everything I didn’t do right (but kept quiet about his favorites, even though I did the job like them), still had the utmost confidence on his favorites, accused me of being lazy and instead of simply firing me and keeping neutral he chose to take it personal, proceeded to try to scare me insinuating I wouldn’t work for his system again, when that failed, tried to humiliate me and then fired me. This was in an non union hospital.
When I think about it I get angry. Id like not to be so thin skinned, but here I am.
Try some self parenting. If you were four years old, what would you want the best parent to say to you if they learned that you were thinking of this?
Said another way, what would you tell your kid if they were dwelling on something like this?
When I first got going in law I had a judge lay into me one day and I left there questioning all my life choices. I realized the dude didn’t know but a small part of my life, was not and could not make any real judgments about who or what I am, and the guy is probably an asshole to his family and his kids hate him.
Bad advice. There’s people with this problem who has neither the will nor the ability to think as a parent.
Okay, it’s not for everyone. Maybe will help OP, maybe not.