Allowing a person to think for themselves is always the best option.

But allowing her to accept scientology should not be an option, and isn’t what I was suggesting.

I simply assume that OP, looking into scientology with a critical eye, is likely to have a good relationship with their daughter. And that the daughter being of dating age, and the offspring of someone seemingly reasonable, they are both capable of having an adult conversation. One that won’t end with their daughter going “fuck you, I’m cutting you out of my life forever” but rather with their daughter accepting reality and intergrating the facts into her mind in a way where they can’t be easily subverted.

If that isn’t the case, then the heavy handed approach is absolutely warranted.

For a long while their innermost secrets were just that, secret. Members are tight-lipped on any real elaboration, and won’t engage with outsiders.

It also makes it really difficult for outsiders to present any countering logic to their beliefs. People aren’t gonna tell you you’ve fallen in with crazies, if you don’t tell em the dumb shit you’re being told is real.

But a lot of it is now out in the open, if you know to look. Even then, the church AGGRESSIVELY wields the law in an active attempt to suppress public knowledge as much as possible. But as even top-level members have left the cult over the decades, even the innermost bullshit has been exposed.

It’s probable that your daughters boyfriend himself knows much less than what is available online, because members are discouraged from interacting with any “harmful” media so as to not grow disillusioned, and aren’t told anything substantial until it’s way too late to painlessly pull out.

It’s all quite deliberately set up to be as insidiously prolific as possible, while minimizing the chances people will leave.

And if people do show start to show signs of wanting out, the gloves come off really quick with stuff like blackmail and legal action.

Even its tax exempt status in the US is a complete farce, yet it lends the cult an air of legitimacy.

It’s a cult. The “science” they base their beliefs on is called “dianetics”. You can look that up and get more straigh-up explanations than by looking up “scientology”.

In short, they think humans are possessed by the dead souls of immortal aliens from millions of years ago, but we can’t perceive this due to traumatic memories which must be “cleared” using “auditing”.

Auditing sessions are recorded, and as they involve confessing your darkest secrets to “clear” the relevant “trauma”, the recordings can then be used to blackmail people into staying with the cult.

It’s a pay-to-level-up religion, except instead of caring for your health they abuse you. They actively reject mental healthcare based on real science, and consider psychiatrists equivalent to murderers.

They don’t believe in the concept of crime, instead considering anything and everything that happens to someone their own fault.

Members are not allowed to report crimes perpetrated by other members to the actual police, instead they must be reported to the church. When scientologists rape other scientologists, the victim gets punished with more auditing.

The most infamous scientologist is likely Danny Masterson, who is finally in prison for assaulting likely dozens and dozens of female members.

They also don’t tell their followers what their beliefs actually are, before they’ve paid so much money for it that the sunk cost fallacy has them too committed to pull out.

You can find more info online about their actual beliefs told by people who have left the cult, than they reveal even to their own followers. Its all deliberately confusing, because no-one would buy into their crazy bullshit otherwise.

Get your daughter out of this relationship asap. Or even better, have a serious talk with her about scientology, explore what it is and what it does to its members, together, so she can then consider the situation and navigate it for herself.

You might just need to reduce choice anxiety.

Once my library got really big, I would find time to game, but then waste it on figuring how exactly I want to spend the time. End up on youtube or something and not actually get into a game at all.

The solution was to keep just a few games favorited, and forget the rest existed.

When I’m done with a game, it gets unfavorited. When I buy a new game it gets favorited.

If the list gets too short, I might do some spelunking in my library to favorite something from my backlog.

This way, each time I sit down to game, I have a very short list of stuff to start or continue that I might actually manage to pick from.

What the others said.

Maybe you need to take a break from games and indulge in some other, or new, hobby.

I like audiobooks, electric skateboards, cycling, manga… And more.

You could also expand the kinds of games you play. I keep trying new genres and if one gets boring I try something else.

Don’t force yourself if you aren’t having fun. That’s a quick way to really ruin something you like.

I’ve gone through several episodes of feeling like there’s nothing I want to play… But, if I keep giving things a chance, and make sure not to burn myself out by trying to find something too hard, or forcing myself to play something because it “supposed” to be fun, even when right then it isnt, something eventually gets me hooked right back in.

Most recently that has been Deadlock. I can’t get enough of it and the feeling is the best.

Yeah, things aren’t clear-cut. There are several matters in which Japan is painfully behind, and being such a populus country you can find people with views across the board.

But a lax justice system isn’t one of them. In fact Japan almost certainly has a huge problem with ostracising and convicting the innocent. You might hear about people losing their jobs just for getting arrested, even if found innocent.

And while laws also definitely need improving, it’s happening.

The main problem with stuff like age of consent, is going to be communities and groups of people who are behind on these things, and thereby shielding individuals from justice by keeping the bad things happening out of earshot of society at large. Their justice system might be brutally ruthless, but that doesn’t help if it never finds out about the crime in the first place.

That’s a completely different conversion.

And you might want to check Japanese conviction rates before making assumptions. Their system is damn near “guilty until proven innocent”.

Now, whether such crimes actually get reported, is again, another, different conversation. There absolutely are vile predators over there, as a judge publicly commented he thought it was weird he could get arrested for banging a 14-year-old.

But the ensuing scandal is also the reason why that dude is no longer a judge, and why the national minimum finally got raised.

There isn’t one. They are repeating a technically kind-of-true funny ha-ha internet factoid.

The effective age of consent is higher, as prefectures all have local laws setting it to something sane, but people say it’s 13 because it was the old national minimum on record up until last year.

And that national law was literally from over a hundred years back, and was finally updated last year to raise the national minimum to 16. Still lower than the 18 in effect in places like Tokyo.

Not since last year, when it was raised to 16.

Even then that was the national minimum set over a hundred years ago.

In practice it’s 18 in most prefectures, and has been for years, due to local law setting it to something sane.

Some kind of cable labeling would be nice.

The deck charger uses USB PD. It will charge anything that supports the standard as fast as possible (up to its rated 65W) and use normal 5v USB for everything else.

Yes.

For the power matter, you don’t. The device being charged, the charger, and cable does.

If you mean what is the maximum wattage that will actually be used, that should be the maximum possible between the charger, cable, and device. So look at their specs. Whichever has the lowest maximum, is what the others will match.

USB PD defines a protocol for the device and charger to determine max safe power. If the cable is replacable (not attached to the charger), it must be rated for PD and be able to tell the charger it can handle more than just the usual 5 volts at 2 amps.

USB PD chargers only output the maximum safe amount of power. That’s why I can use my 65W steamdeck charger to charge my phone if I want to. It just outputs normal USB charger power if the device on the other end can’t verify it can handle more.

It’s also why my SteamDeck charger is what I use to fast charge my phone, because it can actually talk to it using the USB PD protocol to request the voltage and amps it needs to fast charge.

I know that Thunder lets you “label” users so you can recongize them more easily, and I think you can find a list of labeled users somewhere in the app, too.

That’s a good community idea. And I’m on the right instance for it. Remedy is Finnish, after all.

Did you get the scare that can happen in the Mind Place?

There’s one point in the story, where after interacting with the clue board and exiting out, turning around, a cultist will appear in the room.

If you got used to just switching between the different things in the mind place using the buttons, though, instead of walking around, it never happens.

The environments in the game are truly insane.

The mind place IMO is one of the most graphically impressive rooms I’ve seen in any game. Saga looks SO REAL in it.

Search can be a bit iffy. It can only find stuff your local instance has indexed in its database, which is usually quite a lot. But it can have blind spots.

I haven’t used jerboa in a while, but apps like Thunder let you define whether you want to search communities, users, posts, etc.

There is also lemmyverse.net which tries to index all instances so you can search the entire lemmyverse.

Others have made long lists. But really, it boils down to just one thing.

We need stop growing for growths sake, at the expense of literally everything else.

We are screwing up the environment, science, technology, education, childhood, health, work, art, communication, transportation, and everything else, just so number can go up.

Exactly.

So the best way IMO is to do whatever you think is right (and like another commenter said, make the only real rule be “don’t make me ban you”), and as long as you aren’t being insane, you’ll probably be pleasing the majority of users just by coincidence.

I’d add that you should always be ready to change a decision, based on new events and arguments, or if you missed something. The biggest reason I think some mods go a little insane, is that they try to be infallible, but when they inevitably fail, they try to pretend the decision was correct anyway.