That’s interesting to know, thanks! Most coffee shops where I live would probably never get busy enough to use a spare shot. Perhaps they change out to a single shot portafilter, but I’ve never noticed.

Follow-up question - each portafilter is two shots right? So if you end up adding an third shot to a coffee, what do you do with the leftover fourth one?

(Or do you have a smaller, single shot portafilter?)

Ahh thanks. I think Pawb would be a good alternative then. I might set up an account as a backup option, just in case my instance does suddenly go offline.

Just remind me on this - if an instance like lemmy.ml has defederated yiffit, and I create an account on yiffit, would I still be able to see/interact with posts from on lemmy.ml communities? Or does it affect communication both ways?

Ah thanks for confirming that the upload issue is more widespread. I still may consider migrating anyway, as the owner of my current instance has gone awol, which doesn’t bode well…

That’s a shame, because browsing Twitter really sucks in my opinion :( I have noticed the same thing though

I’d say FA is better in that respect, because it (usually) comes from the artist themselves and you can get more of a background on their page. Like you say in your other comment, people often abandon ship but FA always comes out on top.

There’s a German term for nostalgia for a place you’ve never been, fernweh. Perhaps that has some connection?

Path of the Wind from My Neighbour Totoro gives me a similar feeling.

Mm yes I agree - it would be hard to improve on E6. FA has its problems, but it’s not that bad.

Yeah I guess that’s my take on ‘gamifying things’, but there’s probably a few different ways to do it. I’ve heard that in psychology, rewards are a lot more effective than punishments - so maybe frame it slightly differently. Personally I wouldn’t base things on how well you do in the game, because that could get frustrating - in the worst scenario you’ll already be annoyed at doing poorly in the game, and that’s followed by having to do more work. Instead I’d spin it, so if you do all the tidying reward yourself with an hour of gaming. If you get all your chores done, you get 2 hours of gaming etc.

I agree with what others have said about gamifying life. For example, ‘oh it’s 5pm, I need to spend 30 minutes doing some tidying before I can play a game again’. And for games with no clear end point, set yourself goals so you know when to take a break. ‘Once I’ve built this factory, I need to take an hour’s break before I can play again’.

Weirdly enough, I’ve heard the opposite - that the first game is way better than the second 🤔

That’s understandable. I think the anxiety will improve as you attend more. Are we talking about furmeets? In which case, make a list of things you could ask in advance. What’s your sona, how long have you been in the fandom, what kinda games do you play?

Did they say why they wouldn’t talk to you again?

If anyone actually feels that way (repulsed by your conversation), then they’re not a good person and you should try to find better friends… But perhaps they don’t actually feel that way, and it’s something that your anxiety is convincing you is the case when it isn’t? I think we tend to assign too much weight to our perception of how others judge us, whereas in reality the other person is probably too hung up on what they’re going to say to actually notice or worry about our errors. Go out, be clumsy and make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes in real life.

I can relate to a lot of this. I think much of it is a cycle - not engaging in a conversation because of social anxiety and as a result not gaining the necessary experience to improve, so it continues. The only way out is to push yourself, even when it’s uncomfortable. Just say what comes to your mind, don’t overthink things. I’m trying to get better at it myself.

As a side note, I’ve met the Tirrel (the animator of that video) in passing in real life. They seem really nice :3

What sort of things would you try to gain knowledge in?

I hadn’t heard of that before - looks like they have some clubs in the UK so I’ll investigate. Thanks!

What do you mean by active listening exactly?

Thanks for the insight - I hadn’t considered that announcing the silence in that way could be useful, but I see what you mean.

Yes I think you’re right - sometimes I’ll feel like I need to fill a silence, and end up spewing out nonsense. Then I’ll feel embarrassed and struggle with the rest of the conversation. It’s quite hard to un-learn that feeling of silence being uncomfortable, but it would definitely give time to help me think.