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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • I didn’t get converted to a permanent position after a whole year at my job. The only negative feedback (among otherwise great remarks) I had was six months in:

    1. Be more organized and send updates more often.
    2. Speak without tangents or sounding scattered.
    3. Improve prediction of how long tasks will take and completion dates when considering other priorities.

    Does anyone want to guess my diagnosis?* Lol

    The maddening thing is that I didn’t get any follow-up after those comments until five months later, when I got the surprising news that they would not be continuing with me. If I had thought my subsequent med change and work strategies were not, in fact, improving my performance, I would have pursued accommodations.

    * It’s ADHD.













  • I think there are definitely less women than men but probably more women than it seems like.

    I know I don’t mention I’m a woman unless it’s relevant, like this post. Sometimes, I’ll even purposefully use vague language or gender-neutral terms because I don’t want to get condescending interactions or feel like I have to be a perfect representation of a woman in order to dispel stereotypes.

    E.g. Although I love technology and tinker with a home lab and small Arduino projects, I’m not about to look like an absolute CS genius if someone feels like confirming a bias they have about women and CS skills.

    AKA “You like baseball?? Name every player on the Cubs twenty years ago then.”


  • Cis-woman with female bits here. Sounds like I might be an odd one out, but I float between amateur video, digital hentai manga, and Literotica.

    I have to have porn of some sort to orgasm with my hitachi. I can orgasm manually without porn, but it’s not as full-body as the vibe orgasm, so I only do it this way when circumstances require it.

    I Netflix and chill myself maybe 2-3x a week, which is partially because it can take a while, and because other people, who aren’t my partner, need to be in another part of the house because the vibe is not silent.

    So that’s generally how much I use porn. 2-3x a week.

    To answer your question, if you mean the porn to bate session ratio is closer to 1:1, then I might win that over men because I use porn every time I jill off. If you mean a higher frequency of porn sessions, then men will probably win because I only DJ my EP a couple times a week.

    Side note: It seems like a lot of men can orgasm from photos, which is baffling to me. I can’t get to Planet Orgasm from that train. Maybe it’s different types of imagination versus a male v. female thing.