Please re read the original post and my comments. That’s not what I am saying.
I’m saying that ideally moderation SHOULD be handled by the remote instance that hosts the community, and that the local instance should faithfully reflect it without censoring it.
I’m quite happy with my instance and I haven’t experienced this myself (that I know of). I just personally would rather encounter something I don’t like than to only be able to see half a conversation.
I guess you’re right that having instance options makes this a non issue though, as we can both have what we want.
I just think a lot of people join instances like world or ml without really understanding this, which is unfortunate.