If you can afford it, yes you can do this. You are allowed to live and work anywhere in the EU.

But if you also need a job to feed you, its more difficult if you do not speak the local language and have not learned something useful.

But from the residency law you absolutely can pack your bag and move to Germany tomorrow as an EU citizen.

Maybe it helps with understanding when you think of examples of female rape that isn’t a stranger beating up a woman in a dark alley.

Like Harvey Weinstein. Countless women have come forward about rape and sexual violence from him. I doubt he always used physical violence on these women. But he was this all powerful person in the filmindustry who could and would destroy lives and careers with a wave of his hand if you’d deny him.

Very often rape and sexual violence comes out of a power dynamic where the victim (no matter the gender) feels they don’t have a choice. Physical violence does not have to be involved.

Bear in mind that rape is not only defined by the law. And this question was not about the law, but about how rape can happen without physical superiority.

If I would know somebody personally who defines rape only that way, I would actually make an effort to warn all women and girls in proximity about them. Maybe you need to reexamine your own sexual encounters, weather they always been completely consensual…

Who hurt you?

Maybe I wasn’t clear enough in my comment. Of course I don’t mean “The Jewish people” as a complete entity. I mean, Germany is unconditionally and it seems without critical thinking supporting Israel because their guilt towards Jewish people clouds their judgment.

Because of what we did, we can not show any critic or judgment towards Israel, because that’s “anti-semitic”. Which is a stance, that in my opinion actually harms any effort against anti-semitism.

Israel won’t stop until every non-Israeli person in Gaza is eliminated. The Nazis called this “ethnische Säuberung” (ethnic cleansing).

It’s like abused children grow up to abuse their children the same way. The evil cycle of viciousness and violence.

These days I am ashamed of Germany again. Our guilt towards the Jewish people blinds us so much, that we even support them doing the same to others as we did to them.

For what it’s worth, you don’t memorize the gender of things. It’s just difficult, when you learn another language that does it differently. And that’s true for every language you learn, the difficulty lies in how it’s different of your own.

Are you sure this is not just your perception depending on fluency in a language? Your native will always feel more comprehensive than any second language.

A while ago, my dad (native german, fluent english) said something similar to me, that he believes german has so many more words to describe and to give different meaning to the things we say. I do disagree with that too. Now I always have to think about this, when coming across something I have more means to express something in english or german. And there are many examples in both languages.

Even if you are fluent in a second language, you probably always have more words and more nuance in your native language.

“You give up, do as I say and I take everything” is not a peace negotiation. Its a renewal of his declaration of war.

forgot ro shower for a few days

My doctor called that depression.

Maybe because the oldentimes r/showerthoughts was explicitly NOT for thoughts that came to you in the shower. They were kinda strickt about it and stoned your snoo to death if you dared.

Rainer Maria Rilke
Der Panther/ The Panther.
(I don’t really feel the english translation does the poem justice. In german the words create a certain rhythm, nearly like a melody, that I find utterly enchanting)

_His gaze against the sweeping of the bars has grown so weary, it can hold no more. To him, there seem to be a thousand bars and back behind those thousand bars no world.

The soft the supple step and sturdy pace, that in the smallest of all circles turns, moves like a dance of strength around a core in which a mighty will is standing stunned.

Only at times the pupil’s curtain slides up soundlessly — . An image enters then, goes through the tensioned stillness of the limbs — and in the heart ceases to be._

----- The original German‐------

_Sein Blick ist vom Vorübergehn der Stäbe so müd geworden, daß er nichts mehr hält. Ihm ist, als ob es tausend Stäbe gäbe und hinter tausend Stäben keine Welt.

Der weiche Gang geschmeidig starker Schritte, der sich im allerkleinsten Kreise dreht, ist wie ein Tanz von Kraft um eine Mitte, in der betäubt ein großer Wille steht.

Nur manchmal schiebt der Vorhang der Pupille sich lautlos auf –. Dann geht ein Bild hinein, geht durch der Glieder angespannte Stille – und hört im Herzen auf zu sein._

If your issue is mainly about reading sheet music maybe a Veeh Harp would be for you.

It is a string plugged instrument played from note stencils, which are pushed between the strings and the resonance body and enable playing from sight.

https://youtu.be/vQaGn9_iMMQ?feature=shared

https://www.veeh-harfe.de/copy-veeh-harp/?lang=en

https://www.harmonyharp.com.au/

My main argument wasnt about money, but if you stop putting the burden of hild rearing soley on women and share these responsibilities equally they will be more willing to have children. In most cases, more rights for women meant they are paying for the privilige with double the work. Still doing all the work at home and all the work of having children in addition to the job they can now have and gives them a choice.

Yes of course Birthrate goes up, if you take away women’s agency and give them no choice. Take away the means to control family planing and make being a wife and mother the only survivable option. As it was for women in those centuries.

You want to live in a world, were women are again slaves and property of the men in the family and forced to be birthing machines and maids to their husbands?

Not all, but I couldn’t say which ones were and were not. And some of them could seriously fuck you up. The house was wooden, so they always found a crack to squeeze through. But at least I didn’t have scorpions like some of my colleagues.

Unfortunately she most likely OD’d. Last I heard years ago was hard drugs and rumours of prison, prostitution and other rock bottom shit. She was with 16/17 already on a course to destruction and were actively and willingly pursuing a career as drug addict who ignored or spit on every effort to help her choose another path.

Give women AND men the opportunity and means to stay at home for childcare and stop putting the burden solely on the women might actually help.

But I guess treating women like actual people and with equity is way too much to expect.

South Korea has a huge misogyny problem to the point where young women choose celibacy and staying single over marriage and family to escape their bad situation under the current patriarchy. They actively choosing not to have children, because men treat them like shit.

They have a problem with patriarchy and not with birth rates. Birth rates are just the symptom.

Seeing that there is a big trend in young Korean women to abstain from men, marriage and family, I’d say starting to treat women like actual people could very well make a difference.

But yeah, getting them into school earlier and probably indoctrinate them earlier into good obedient wives could work too.

RAID Spray

I have no experience with black widows, but when I lived in rural Cambodia with its huge jumping spiders (they also have their egg sack hanging on their belly, so you really don’t want to squash them) RAID seriously was my best friend and life saver.

As a European I think, Trumps closeness to Putin and fascism in general "“burns’ idea of US as leading democracy”.