I’m asking because it’s a very normal thing to do here.
When you enter a room, but also things like a hairdresser or say a small cafe, you say hello to the people there and say goodbye when leaving. Or when taking a bus, you say hello to the driver and goodbye or thank him when getting off.
I was only recently told by some online friends of mine that this is pretty weird in other places. So I’m wondering if I’m (or my country) is the weird one or them
I started greeting people more in the last year or so. Some people at work have started saying Good morning, etc. as well.
Most of the time in public I find that my greeting is ignored. This bothers me because I assume people are starting from a negative assumption about me: I want something from them, I need a conversation, I’m hitting on them, etc. I am not trying to do any of those things, just wishing people a good day. It seems that we as a society have allowed our fears and social awkardness to overcome being polite.
It should not be an issue for two strangers to say good morning to each other but apparently it is for most.
You kinda are tho, you’re expecting them to interact with you and you’re assuming negative things about them based on them not being interested.
No. I am not.
I am surprised that anyone would equate a simple greeting with requiring a conversation or asking someone out.
All I ask is a same or similar Hello, tiny smile, whatever simple human acknowledhement you care to give. One does not even have to slow their pace to do this.
Ignoring someone that just wished you a good day is rude.
I try not to take it personally, because I have NO idea what’s happening in that person’s life, or what’s happening in their head.
What if some of those people are deaf or mute? What if their parent just died and they’re doing their best to not break down in tears? What if they had the most infuriating day/night of their life, and they are so upset that they can’t be polite? What if they speak a foreign language? What if they have in-ear headphones that are tough to see?
There are many situations where I would feel silly for expecting a response, and realistically, many of them would be invisible to strangers.
For example, you’re probably not going to tell someone who wished you good morning that you can’t talk because you just found out your baby is going to be stillborn. You’re probably going to try to shut things out while you process the intense emotions.
Please don’t take it so personally, and maybe try to be a bit more empathetic to strangers. Neither you or I likely even have a chance of knowing their reasons.
I don’t know about you, but I would honestly feel like a terrible person for getting annoyed at someone for not talking in the example above. One you say something, it’s too late to undo it.
Please please please remember that a LOT of people likely have things going on that you’re unaware of.
You just said “no” and the proceeded to explain exactly how you are doing it and again assume negative things about people.
you realize some people might not want to even make eye contact because in some places, acknowledging randos can get your ass whipped in the streets.
What is the point of meaningless social niceties? Does anyone actually enjoy these encounters?
At least where I’m from, it’s just more polite to let people get on with their day. Being randomly greeted by strangers, while not exactly an imposition, isn’t exactly not an imposition either.
There’s a lot of “it depends”, I think. Crowded sidewalk? No, I’m not going to try to greet anyone. Only two people walking on this block in my neighborhood? Yes, I will say good day.
I can’t stand this attitude; I encounter it mainly while walking two tiny friendly dogs. I’ll just say “hello” or maybe “sorry about that” if the dogs are in the way (I always try to get out of the way but people can and do appear out of nowhere).
I’m always met with “😒”. Shame on me for being so threatening with my fucking chihuahuas I guess.
I’m guilty of that sometimes, but it’s not you and it’s not anger/disgust. It’s pure, uncut social awkwardness and adhd overthinking. Or I’m just upset about something and lost in my own head. I’m not rude on purpose. 😖
I try not to take it personally but being from the Midwest it just feels incredibly rude; it’s just my upbringing not matching up with the local culture.