I think I know the answer: I’m a failed adult, maybe if was still a teen I could date or get laid, since you don’t need anything to impress or really attract the other sex… As an adult without money, social life and social skills that is unobtainable.
Edit: this is NOT an “asking for advice” post, just answer the question, don’t try to analyse me like a damn specimen.
If your question is serious there are 2 things to do. First recognize the fact that if you believe that you are a loser you will come off that way to other people. When a guy lacks all confidence others can “smell” it on him like a dog. If you stay in that rut it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy that you will always be a loser. 2ND - Don’t waste your time with bars and dating sites. Find clubs in your area. Stuff like hiking or biking, trips to art shows, anything that is going to have both males and females. You will find many females in these clubs who are there for the same reason as you. To meet someone. Get to know them a bit and then ask them to join you for coffee or a drink. And don’t get discouraged if you get turned down on your first few attempts. Consider them practice. Eventually someone will say yes.
Trips? Hiking? Clubs? Dude that’s not me, I don’t like that shit and plus I’m low class broke, I couldn’t afford any of that anyways. I’m already tired of working