• Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee
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    13 days ago

    There’s a big problem with the “women message first” gimmick, and it’s that they just don’t.

    If they don’t simply let the match expire, you either get a shitty Gif, or something along the lines of “hey.”

    Maybe one in ten will actually send a message that genuinely starts a conversation.

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      13 days ago

      I literally saw so many profiles being like “I don’t message first”, like do you even understand what the app you’ve signed up for is?

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      13 days ago

      it would work better if it was "women swipe first’. men can look at and swipe the women who swiped them already. this solves two problems:

      1. women are not seen by anyone they don’t want to be
      2. men don’t need to spend hours swiping hundreds of women

      please give me 1 million dollars

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        12 days ago

        That’s the premium feature in pretty much every dating app. You get to see who likes you but you have to pay the money to find out if anyone swiped on you at all.

        They imply that lots of people swiped on you but you don’t actually know until after you’ve given the money.

        So basically your plan is to just remove the con part which I’m all in favor of.

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          13 days ago

          it means men would not spend hours on the app, which means nobody would ever do this

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            13 days ago

            Exactly, Im 50 and Im not rich or particularly good looking. If I was straight I might only see 5 or 6 women on the app that would match with me to begin with and if those didn’t become anything I’d be done with that app. It can’t work

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              13 days ago

              Would you rather see 5 or 6 women that all expressed interest in you or a thousand women who have never and probably will never even see you? Open the app, swipe 5 or 6 times, move on with your life.

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            13 days ago

            Who wants men spending hours on the app and why? Most of these are subscription-based, not ad-supported.

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          13 days ago

          Yes, that’s the idea. They wouldn’t see anyone who hasn’t already liked them.

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              12 days ago

              They’re not “exhausting options”. They’re just only seeing the options that are actually available, rather than an endless stream of those that aren’t.

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                    12 days ago

                    If I see five options and then date those five and it goes nowhere if there aren’t new potential matches presented regardless of suitability the user will go to a different app where they are given the illusion of more choice.

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      12 days ago

      Maybe it’s you guys, but I never really had this issue.