I’ve seen people consider even 5’7" as short for some reason so i’m curious if it has happened with someone

      • surewhynotlem@lemmy.world
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        1 day ago

        Why? If dude is gender neutral, then you should be comfortable using the phrase “I’d have sex with that dude”.

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          I’d say it’s a expression that does have gender associations, but it’s not offensive or anything to call a woman dude in the right context. If anything it is usually used as a gesture of camaraderie, in this case because a woman has suffered in a way that men can understand.

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            I get what you’re saying. But what you’re saying could also be interpreted as “you’ve suffered in a way we understand, so you’re not a woman anymore, you’re better, you’re one of the men.”

            It’s also like a guy being called “one of the gals” by the gals. That’s not welcomed by most men, even if it’s well meant. I don’t want to be one of the gals. I want to be a guy and accepted.

            So I just don’t use “dudes”. I use folks. Same concept, infinitely less ambiguity. Words are great like that. You always have options.