Obviously I can understand why mysoginists are hated upon, As their belief is all women are trash or men are superior etc. But why are incels also generally hated upon? They are lacking in a way that makes them unable to gey in a relationship, but that shouldn’t necessarily mean they are mysoginists, right?

What am I missing here? I haven’t ever had a relationship with a woman, but I don’t hate all women either. I just consider myself unlucky. Does that make me an incel?

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    👍

    (Framing what I said as defending bigotry does not change reality. It’s preposterous to assert that women should not take precautions against the worst case scenario because someone’s feelings might get hurt)

    (I’m out for real this time. Seriously consider taking on a woman’s perspective)

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      You’re making the same fallacious argument that racists make about why whites need to avoid blacks. Or why Christians need to avoid dealings with Jews. You’re a bigot whether you realize it or not.

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        Actually, no. I’m going to take 5 minutes and address this one through example.

        Women aren’t afraid of men because they have a penis, which is the thing that makes them a man. They are afraid of men because men are biologically armed.

        Let me spell it out for you, although I’m certain this endeavor ultimately isn’t going to get any response from you except the quintessential “nuh uh”:

        1. You are being approached by a nondescript person with a rifle pointed at you. That doesn’t concern you at all? You don’t know he’s going to pull the trigger, and he probably won’t anyway because that would land him in prison.

        But by your logic if you take any measure to avoid him you are a bigot against people with guns

        1. Now you’re looking to cross the street. You look both ways and notice cars are coming. You deduce that they would most likely see and avoid you if you just walk out in the middle of the road, but there’s still the chance you might get hit.

        But by your logic you are being a bigot against people who drive if you decide not to cross the road

        1. Now you are a woman walking to your car from the gym. There is a man parked next to you waiting by his car for seemingly no reason. You noticed him staring at you when you were on the treadmill. You tell yourself he probably won’t do anything because there’s cameras, but trying to get to your car door makes you nervous.

        By your logic you would be a bigot if you decided not to go back to your car

        This situation actually happened to my mother-in-law. That man tried to grab her and came on to her.

        If you say “Well Seasoned_Greetings, it’s OBVIOUSLY not the same situation in the first two examples because those situations are ACTUALLY DANGEROUS”, then you are running head first into the point and still missing it.

        Men are armed. They cannot disarm. Women aren’t afraid in the same way of men in wheel chairs, or men they can clearly get away from, or even outnumber.

        If you really, truly can’t understand why women take precautions, there’s nothing more I can say to you. It’s not bigotry to be aware that you can be overpowered and fear for your own safety. Full stop.

        Accusing this mindset of bigotry only really highlights to people who get it that you have no idea what you’re talking about.

        Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have to go to bed.

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          I don’t think you understand what a trait vs an immutable trait is. Being a driver or a gun owner is not an immutable trait. So those aren’t applicable to what I’m talking about. I’m talking about bigotry based on immutable traits, such as sex or race. Which is unlawful under certain circumstances and is always highly illiberal

          A woman could also have done that to your MiL, especially if she had a knife or gun. Which should be presumed as we are in the United States. Any stranger behaving in such a manner should raise red flags, including if that stranger is a woman. My point is not that stranger danger isn’t a reasonable concept under certain circumstances, it’s that you’re a bigot if you only apply that concept to certain sexes or races. White women, for example, should raise just as many red flags and protective measures as black men do if we are talking about strangers acting strangely. In fact, you’re a mark and a bigot if you think a would be assailant is actually a friend just because they’re a white lady

          Suspicious behavior should always raise your suspicions. Race and sex don’t play any part in that analysis

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            At this point you are nitpicking what I said to fit your own idea, despite understanding the point perfectly.

            Being a tiger is an immutable trait. Are you going to tell me that I shouldn’t discriminate when I decide whether to approach it? Or are you going to say “Duh, it’s a wild animal known to maul people”? Because if you said that you’d be running head first into the point and missing it like you have already done twice now

            Just because being a man is an immutable trait does not mean that men aren’t the ones committing violent crimes. 99% of sexual assault cases in the US are perpetrated by men, and 91% of the victims are women. Just because you don’t like that fact does not change the reality that women have to be statistically overwhelmingly more wary of men than other women. That also doesn’t mean that women don’t ever have to be wary of other women. Nobody said that.

            It could very well have been a woman with a knife in my mother-in-law’s situation. Here’s the thing though, it’s very nearly 100x more likely to have been a male. It’s not bigotry to recognize that pattern. Telling a woman to ignore that pattern so she won’t hurt a man’s feelings is completely nuts, especially if you are a man, which I strongly suspect you are.

            This entire conversation is exhausting. You’re so bent on being right about women being bigots for not trusting men as readily as they might trust other women, that you actually agree with me about “stranger danger”, you’re just playing completely blind to the statistics to suit your politics.

            My man, I don’t know how to say it any other way. If you’re still stuck on this concept being bigotry, I can’t see another way for me to hold your hand through this.

            You may never get it. I’ve spelled it out for you so thoroughly that you have to actively not want to understand at this point. Your politics are proving to be more important to you than women’s actual safety, and so I’m done here. Good luck explaining your point to a woman you know without getting laughed at.

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              Being a tiger is an immutable trait. Are you going to tell me that I shouldn’t discriminate when I decide whether to approach it?

              So now you’re dehumanizing and othering men by comparing them to wild animals. Which is another example of bigotry, and the first step towards such things as crimes against humanity and genocide. I remember hearing a lot recently about how all Palestinians are animals. And reading about how Germans in the 30s claimed that all jews were inhuman. And if not all then certainly most, which is why we need to round them up just to be sure

              I’m really not interested in FBI crime stats unless you’re going to be honest with them and use them to make similar points about race. If you’re not willing to argue that the stats show that whites and blacks cannot live together, or at least that whites cannot trust blacks (which are clearly ludicrous and bigoted statements) then you shouldn’t be using sex to make that same argument. We shouldn’t refuse to make business dealings with Jews just because they’re Jewish, we shouldn’t refuse to hire black people as cops just because they’re black, we shouldn’t refuse to hire Muslims in LGBT organizations, and we similarly shouldn’t distrust men just because they’re men. And honestly if you think we should do any of those things then not only are you a bigot, but you also don’t know women. Because I know for a fact that my wife, her friends, colleagues, and family members highly resent this sort of pseudo feminist hate speech that people like you peddle supposedly on their behalf. Then again, most of them are educated and have functioning brains, which may be why they are able to discern the difference between reality and bigotry, and the distinction between groups based on immutable traits and individuals.

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                My man, you are taking any and every opportunity to warp what I’m saying into something it isn’t.

                If you’re going to accuse me of a path to genocide because you can’t understand that women don’t feel safe around men they don’t know, this conversation has reached its logical conclusion.

                Which is to say that you can only discredit me if I’m literally advocating genocide. You know that I’m not. You’re reaching, and this is no longer an honest argument. Not that it was 5 comments ago either, but the absurdity of your logic has peaked.

                You’re never going to get it. That’s not my problem. Later tater

                Good luck out there.

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                  Dehumanizing any group based on immutable traits is a path to genocide, yes. Which is why it needs to be opposed at its earliest stage in all manifestations. This is simple 3rd grade holocaust history stuff. Did you not go to school?

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                    You might have a point if my original assertion was “no men are trustworthy, ever” but really it was “women have a reason to not immediately trust men they don’t know”

                    You’re insisting on a fallacy, one that you won’t allow nuance for. You’re putting words in my mouth like genocide and fbi. You’re elsewhere accusing me of running a far right psyop. You clearly do have an agenda.

                    We’re done here. Enjoy your downvotes