every time we go out to eat, I take like two bites and feel like throwing up, and I’m not one to get nauseous easily. this only started when we started dating (wed been best friends for 3 years or so up until that)

its not new food, I’ve been to these places many times before

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    Sounds like anxiety. Mild nausea and loss of appetite are something that I deal with on a daily basis. If you are happy then it could just be nervous excitement, like having butterflies in your stomach.

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      Yeah, OP didn’t say how long they’d been together but if it’s a new relationship after 3 years of being friends, especially if they’re young and/or there’s been lingering feelings for some time before becoming “official”, then anxiety and nervous excitement is likely to be high!

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          If nothing else is triggering it then my advice would be to cherish the feeling while it lasts! Go on dates that don’t involve food for a while or stick to lighter food that doesn’t involve sitting in a restaurant to eat. Once things start to feel more normal between you then you can try formal meals again.

          If she’s suggesting restaurants in the meantime then just be honest with her, she’ll likely find it sweet and endearing and it’ll help to calm the nerves.

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    Allergies maybe? Most women use special makeup for dates. It could be something she’s wearing like lipstick. It could be something in the food like peanuts or olive oil.

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      Did you sign up for any life insurance policies with her recently? Add her to your will? Is she currently borrowing something and has mentioned “jokingly” about how she’d really like to keep it?

      Not a high probability, mind you, but since the subject was raised…

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    I have a similar issue sometimes. I feel like I get overstimulated by smells in restaurants… Also I’m lazy so I eat boring food at home, so maybe the variety contributes to the nausea.

    Also I’m celiac, which definitely doesn’t help.

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    Placebo effect?
    Maybe you got a touch of food poisoning one of the first times and now you subconsciously associate it with date nights?

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      Fun fact! When the effect on your health is negative instead of positive it’s known as the nocebo effect.

      Well, I thought that fact was fun…

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    Restaurants don’t serve food. They serve drugs that are intended to hook you and make you come back, not nourish you and keep you healthy. It could just be the cumulative effect. People who eat poorly get worse and worse over time.

    I think every large establishment that serves food to the public should be required to serve food that a person could eat FOR EVERY MEAL and be healthy.

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      I’ve worked in quite a few restaurants, and although they were full of drugs, the drugs were usually in the cooks, NOT the food.

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        Then journal. Dump your thoughts onto paper, consider and reconsider. Just write out what you think. It can be a text file, a paper notebook with pen, whatever. Just write a lot.

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          yeah that could help, I’ve just always been a “bottle it up and call it a day” kind of guy

          dunno, my mental health has been improving now that I’m out of school honestly so well see

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            Don’t bottle it up. Decades of experience talking here. Do what you can to come to terms with your feelings, thoughts, etc. Then find a job that has good mental health care and see a therapist.

            Advice: you will likely need to try out a couple before you find the right one. When you’re comfortable with someone, you’ll know.

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            Except for at the beginning of dinner dates.

            Do you at least acknowledge it’s psychological? That unless she’s dosing your first bite with ipecac, there’s no physical reason to feel nauseous during the first couple bites of dinner dates?

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            Don’t bottle up. That was the whole point of Inside Out. You have to experience the emotions.

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    Go to the same restaurants at the same time under the same conditions (i.e. how recently you ate another meal, day of the week, the weather, etc.) but with a different person and see if you still feel ill. Vary the conditions until you find one that correlates with your illness. Then try altering that condition.

    If you feel ill under all conditions then see a doctor. In fact it might be good to make a doctor appointment anyway.

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    It’s because you’re pregnant.

    But on all seriousness, some say that there are cases when the would-be-father also feels nauseous with food when the girl gets pregnant.