What really made my stomach turn is that my Aunt had a smile on her face. At first I took it as maybe she’s trying to stay positive about the situation or having some odd nervous reaction but it was a huge huge smile as if she won the lottery. My grandma was not well off by any means so I highly doubt she had much in her will and my uncle was clearly not smiling in the picture.
She was also extremely unempathetic when my dad passed away during my mid 20s, telling me I need to man up and do better in life. I was working, in a relationship and doing my best to help my mom out. Am I overreacting or does she come off as a full blown sociopath?
I had to gently tell my mom to stop fucking posting pictures of me intubated at the hospital and various other states of literally dying on facebook, not only because I didn’t consent, but also because that shit is weird. Never mind that if that had ended up being the end, I don’t want my hairy man boobs to be the last thing people see of me.
Nobody here can really give you specific advice based on the few facts. You’re part of this family, you know them better than all of us. If you feel off about it, there’s a reason for it. You’ve come here to ask the question. So I think you’re well within your rights to reduce contact with that side of the family. I would only suggest you quietly ghost rather than making a big stink.
Ya I get what you mean, it’s just keeping me up at 2:30 am so I thought I may as well try to get a third party opinion if possible to see if I’m overthinking, I agree with the ghosting
Most of us don’t have the luxury of choosing our families. We can just try to do the best with the hand we’re dealt. I’m sorry for your loss.
Maybe delete the picture, put the phone down, and try to think of 20 great things about your grandmother.
Thank you, you’re right, I need to put my phone away and distract myself for a bit.
Did they throw up a peace sign?
Your aunt sounds awful though.
You prick, I was just about to put my phone down and you made me laugh
present day society, tirelessly capturing everything
“Victorian Death Photos” are a thing, and were probably more socially acceptable then than in present-day society
Regardless of your aunts motives, you are allowed to feel the way you feel, and to speak up about it. Best that can happen is she’ll understand and apologize, worst is she’ll be ashamed and defensive.
She’s not one to apologize so I just didn’t say anything. Mostly out of shock and grief at the time.
“I was really quite shocked and appalled by the picture you sent after grandma passed away. I especially wonder why you’d be smiling like you were. What was going through your mind/what were you thinking?”
Would be a very valid question in my opinion, asked in an adult way.
Reading the main post and other comments you’ve made giving more context, IMO you are correct, your aunt is a narcissistic sociopath.
Ya I’ve decided I’m not talking to that side of the family at all anymore, there’s been too much BS and this camel’s back is now FUBAR
