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        That was in response to being robbed.

        I think the phrase you’re looking for is “defending yourself”.

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          I don’t live in a 3rd world country, so I guess I just don’t understand the concept of needing to arm myself before leaving my house because I’m likely to need a deadly weapon while I go about my business.

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            I don’t live in a 3rd world country

            lol the US has the highest death rate from gun violence - it’s literally the #1 killer of children.

            which is not to assert that adding more firearms will help the situation, but it’s got fuckall to do with living in a first world country or third world country.

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              In these kinds of discussions you can assume the third world country jab was a reference to the US.

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              As an aside: part of the definition of a First World Country includes being a “stable democracy”.

              If a poll was done of American citizens asking them “do you think fraud will play a part in the upcoming election?” I would be shocked if less than 80% said yes. That doesn’t sound like a stable democracy to me.

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            What country do you live in? I’m curious which one has no theft or violent crime.

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              Not OP check out my username for an idea of where I live. Besides a bit of gang on gang action in our capital, violent crimes are extremely rare. It’s maybe once a year that police have to shoot at a person, and even then police officers will assess the situation and if possible not go for center mass.

              Note how I left out theft. That’s because you can’t directly use violence to protect property.

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                Note how I left out theft. That’s because you can’t directly use violence to protect property.

                I remember hearing this when I lived in the UK for a few years and I was blown away. What are you expected to do if being robbed? Let it happen?

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                    Yeah, not here.

                    I’ve had shit stolen. The police “handled it” to an extent but we will never get back priceless family heirlooms given to us from my wife’s side of the family. Fuck thieves.

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                  Call the police. Are you in physical danger? If not why are you putting yourself in physical danger?

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                    I don’t think I understand your question.

                    What scenario are you imagining with these questions?

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                  You do what the police do, and provide a proportionate response.

                  A gun is only to be used if you are in imminent danger of your life. A robbery is arguably not that, unless they’re trying to steal your organs or prostheses.

                  There’s a reason your average supermarket security guard doesn’t immediately whip out the Mini-Nuke the moment they see a shoplifter.

                  There’s also something to be said about the place you’re living in, where you’re to be terrified of stabbists and robberers the moment you step out-of-doors. Do you live in a hive of scum and villainy?

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                  There is a solution, it’s called insurance. I know that you wouldn’t get your family heirlooms back, but neither would you being armed but not home.

                  I know the other guy wouldn’t say it, so I’ll go ahead and do it: you sound like you’re out for revenge, but you don’t know on whom to exact it. I fear that you could end up shooting a porch pirate in the back while claiming self defense.

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              There’s a difference between “violent crime exists” and “violent crime is so prevalent that regular citizens need to carry around an implement designed to kill people quickly while they go about their daily lives.”

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                I’ve never been in a serious vehicle accident.

                Still wear my seat belt though.

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                  “Wearing a seatbelt is the same as walking around with a device that can near instantly kill people.” Is something said by someone living in a dystopia.

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                    It was a preparedness analogy which seems to have gone over your head.

                    Is something said by someone living in a dystopia.

                    You’ve had a variation on this in just about every response. It’s getting very old. We get it, US bad.

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                There’s a difference between “violent crime exists” and “violent crime is so prevalent that regular citizens need to carry around an implement designed to kill people quickly while they go about their daily lives.”

                Only if you haven’t yet experienced violent crime.

                I carry a weapon because of one violent encounter I experienced in 2009.

                I decided that I never want it to happen again, so I am content to carry a weapon for the 1/1000000 times that it happens.

                I’ve had hundreds of thousands of encounters with strangers and only one of them involved the stranger trying to seriously hurt me. That one was enough to change my view on the nature of reality.

                Crashes don’t have to be prevalent in one’s life in order to wear a seatbelt.

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          In civilized countries “self defense” means you might have to punch someone. “You should have an easy way to kill someone on you at all times, and keep it hidden so they don’t know” is not self defense, but clear signs of a dystopia.

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            Especially when it causes law enforcement to become so paranoid of the citizens they’re ostensibly meant to protect, that a mere hailstone landing on the car roof immediately causes them to believe they’re being fired upon.

            That just sounds like a terrible time for everyone involved.

            At that point, you’re basically turning the constabulary into soldiers.

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            No, being limited in self defense to the power of your body is a pre-civilized state. Asking women to punch people to defend themselves is nature rules. That’s where whoever’s biggest gets to take advantage of people.

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            In civilized countries “self defense” means you might have to punch someone.

            My back is fucked and have an 80% rating from the VA. I’m not getting into fist fights anymore.

            If someone gets blown away stealing shit, the world has become a better place, frankly.

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              “Property is more valuable than human lives.”
              A statement from a person in a developed country apparently…

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                “The strong should be allowed to do whatever they want to the weak” A statement from a person in a developed country apparently…

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                    And without one, the stronger will always prevail over the weak. I can’t believe I need to spell this out.

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                    Uh, no. There are quite a lot of laws governing when deadly force is allowed which vary by country and state. I’m quite sure none of them allow it when someone “bothers you”.

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                  You’re talking about things like it’s obvious they are just important as lives. Fucking disgusting

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                    You’re expecting me to value people who steal shit.

                    And before this goes in a disingenuous direction, no, I don’t mean stealing bread from a damn grocery store.

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                    There are a lot of disingenuous replies in this comment section but I’ll just go on explaining as if you actually don’t understand.

                    The rating comment was meant to demonstrate that I am not at my peak physical condition and am more vulnerable than my outward appearance portrays.

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      I prefer to reduce demand, instead. Everyday people who feel happy and safe don’t feel the need to be violent.

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        This is true of everyday people. But a small percentage of people are psychopaths, who are perfectly happy to be violent whenever they can get away with it.

        A seriously deprived scenario will make others violent, but there is always a subset that is violent even in comfortable situations.

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      Oops now everyone got guns and you get killed by some random. I’m sure judge dredd will save you. Try being more violent, violence solves all problem. It’s self defense that mean it’s right. Always remember, dead bodies tell no tales. Aim for the center of mass and always empty the mag to make sure there is only your side of the story left.

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        Actually increasing the level of possible violence (and also the uncertainty of violent outcomes) does lead to a reduction in aggression. You have to be willing to think it through though.

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          “What if he has a gun”

          Thieves in your area are now packing, enjoy the upgrade on unpredictable violence

          Try faster violence escalation next for extra spicy neighborhoods

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      Would you rather be reading a story about how this woman was arrested for murder? Just because these men were being pigs doesn’t mean you get to kill them…

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        Well not if you aren’t armed. If you are armed, you do get to kill people.

        An armed society is a polite society.

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          Polite society my ass. I’ve owned guns for over 15 years and never has a gun de-escalated a situation. People who carry in public are way more likely to kill someone and to get themselves killed. Guns cause aggressiveness far more often.

          The woman was never in danger, if she pulled a gun, her, the harrassers, and all other bystanders would have been in danger.

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          I suppose you might get to kill people but that doesn’t mean that the law is going to be ok with that. Proportionality of force is a thing. Stand your ground states are doing their best to change that, but that’s a very mixed bag.

          If you shoot and kill someone for blocking your waymo and being a creep, in most places you are going to have to convince a district attorney and a jury that you were justified in ending their life. Even if you do that and escape criminal liability, you’ll then have to convince more people not to hold you liable in civil court.

          Sounds pretty cool to go “I got a shooty bang bang so if I feel threatened in any way I can come out blasting.” It is true in the moment, but if you place any value on your future liberty, money, and time you might want to consider the ramifications of killing another human being.

          Finally, even if society decides you shouldn’t face any criminal or civil penalty for killing someone, you will have to face yourself. Sitting behind a keyboard it sounds badass to shoot someone that’s pissing you off. In the moment you will probably feel justified. Many a young man sent to war or employed as a police officer didn’t think that taking a life would change them, only to find the reality of taking a life is not what the action movies promised. Self doubt, self loathing, ptsd, depression, these are all common reactions to reckoning with the fact that you are the cause of another persons death.

          It is hard to feel like a righteous badass as you watch a grieving widow mourn someone that may have even done something stupid or wrong, knowing that their child has no father now and their wife no partner. Are these people jerks and creeps, sure, is the punishment for being a jerk or creep death, rarely. It is a heavy burden to carry to end another.

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        I once had someone get in my face and say, “Are you man enough to fight me?” I responded with “I’m man enough to find non-violent solutions to my problems.” Why should someone be proud of the problem-resolution method of choice for 3-year-olds?

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          Violence is for situations when one’s choice of other resolution methods is gone. Such situations do exist.

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            Yes, and the vast majority of scenarios where that is the case is where one party made completely unreasonable demands or turned to violence as the first option.

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          there aren’t always non-violent solutions. i accept that reality. it’s nothing to be proud of, but i would be ashamed if i couldn’t deal with that truth.

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            You’re correct, there aren’t always non-violent solutions, but those are often due to people who insist on engaging in violence, whether it be invading another country or taking offense at someone pulling into their driveway.

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              Yes. It only takes one party to initiate violence involving two parties.

              This is why it is necessary to be prepared for violence even if one never initiates violence.

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                I’m not sure what your point is. It is completely orthogonal to mine. In the same vein, no, you aren’t responsible for other people’s choices, and yes, rabid dogs (or people who act like them) are unlikely to listen to reason. Neither of those are good reasons to start fights, and that statement neither says that all fights are avoidable or that one mustn’t defend oneself.